Comments on: A little holiday mommadrama.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Wed, 21 Dec 2005 02:32:03 +0000

Ugh is right. Notclue wins. Pot-smokin’ granny lighting up in front of the kid is a nastiness that’s hard to beat. That would make me nuts. Notaclueson sounds like he has his act together. Good for him.

The thing I hate the most about the holidays is having to use up my days off (lifehours I’ll never get back) spending time with such challenging people. I’d love to have my husband and kids to myself.

By: Miss Jean

Miss Jean — Wed, 21 Dec 2005 01:18:08 +0000

Ugh. Toxic people.

By: wordgirl

wordgirl — Wed, 21 Dec 2005 00:39:52 +0000

*Things that don’t look/sound like a joke…but are later presented as such.
*Things that are funny…but then are later revealed to be heartbreakingly true.

These are a few of my most UN-favorite things.

By: notaclue

notaclue — Tue, 20 Dec 2005 15:17:35 +0000

Okay, here’s one your not going to believe–I barely can and I live this life. My eldest son used to be able to stay at my moms’ in the summer for one week…., UNTIL…., He came home from his last (ever!!!) trip and asked “why does grandma smoke a funny pipe?” The bitch had him holding her BOWL while she was driving them to the lake to go fishing. AAAAARRRRRRGGGGGGGHHHHHHH!!
I don’t care about pot, I think it should be legal. But it’s NOT, so nobody, but nobody smokes around my kids or even opines that it’s anything but wrong. I figure once they reach adulthood they can make their own choices but not until they’ve experience reality fully.
BTW, my eldest is now 23, totally awesome, holds my views about pot and jeez, totally avoids his grandma. And she doesn’t understand why(!?!?!)

By: rose

rose — Tue, 20 Dec 2005 04:58:02 +0000

Oh, dear. Looks like all the Evil siblings humped their way to the PO this week. Received our card today addressed “To a Wonderful Daughter and Son-in-Law” with blah, blah, blah about how great family is and how we’re all here to support one another. From a woman who hasn’t spoken to her grandsons in over 2 years and hasn’t seen them in almost 5.

Okay, so now that I’ve lightened up the room with my holiday cheer…..

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Tue, 20 Dec 2005 02:48:20 +0000

Notaclue, thanks for what you said. That thought about hereditary vicousness is scary. I haven’t seen it in our kids yet either (thank goodness!). Be that as it may, my children don’t have any unsupervised time with MIL because they could learn how to act that way by imitating her behavior. Who needs that?

By: Anne

Anne — Mon, 19 Dec 2005 22:54:58 +0000

This sounds remarkably like the sort of conversation(s) I have with both my mother and mother-in-law.

By: notaclue

notaclue — Mon, 19 Dec 2005 22:44:41 +0000

Jennifer, your m-i-l sounds like a real cow. Sorry she had to do that when you were probably still hurting badly.
Do you ever worry that viciousness could be hereditary? I know I look at my children and look for sociopathic tendancies (none found either–lucky us!)

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Mon, 19 Dec 2005 21:38:46 +0000

My mother-in-law is just like that. I get blind-sided by similar comments. I’m always on the lookout, but they’re usually said like this, “Oh, you look so much better today, like you’ve had a good rest. Looked like you had black eyes last night, but now you look so relaxed.

Thanks? I think?

Here’s another of her gems… After my mom died suddenly at 53 from a cerebral hemorrhage, mother in law and I were looking at my family photos a week or so later and she said, “Oh your mom was so beautiful when she was young. She must have felt worse than she let on, because she really let herself go at the end.”

Didn’t see that one coming either.

I can surely sympathize.

By: Melissa

Melissa — Mon, 19 Dec 2005 19:25:30 +0000

I love my mom. Seriously. Not to rub it in or anything; I just feel profoundly grateful, suddenly. Think I’ll go call her…